Transformational Life Coaching

Transformational Life Coaching

What is Transformational Life Coaching?

Transformational life coaching is a wholistic approach to life coaching.  Together, we explore various aspects of your life where you want to make a change.  By exploring a macro view of your life, we can understand how each life dimension impacts and connects to other areas.  Our lives are complex and interconnected with our environments and other people around us.

The sessions may entail some or all of the following exercises and strategies:

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Creating a personal mission & vision

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Writing short term & long term goals

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Determining your core values

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Developing personal leadership

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Understanding your motivators

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Identifying your perceived obstacles

What are the benefits of transformational life coaching?

There are numerous benefits to transformational life coaching, which are relative to how much the client wants to shift their life and what they want to create.  The International Coaching Federation states improved self confidence, improved relationships, elevated communication skills, and improved work life balance as the most commonly experienced benefits by clients.  The work I’ve done with my clients has most often resulted in:

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Direction & Purpose

Gaining clarity on a vision for their future life, which helped my clients find direction and make decisions now.

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Leverage of Skills & Time

Understanding what is working in their lives and why, so they could apply their skills to create shifts in other areas of their lives.

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Confidence & Motivation

Overcoming obstacles, making small shifts daily, and creating positive habits to transform their life and perspective.

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Core Beliefs

Core Beliefs

What are core beliefs and how do they impact our lives?

Core beliefs are deeply embedded beliefs we hold about ourselves, others and the world around us. It is what we believe to be true about our personality, our traits, who we are, and how we interact with our world.

Core beliefs are created from childhood experiences, and help us understand how we fit in to the world. While they serve a purpose, core beliefs are formed at an early age by our partially developed brains, and are often based on singular experiences that we generalise.  As a child, we interpret our experiences without proper context and often do not fully understand what is happening.  Once we create core beliefs, we begin to perceive our world through this lens, and look for proof to support our belief.  Over time, we build up our core beliefs and reinforce them through how we perceive events.  Positive core beliefs can serve to give us confidence to pursue our dreams, have resilience to overcome obstacles, and connect deeply with others.  Negative core beliefs can limit what we believe is possible and restrict our potential.  Our negative core beliefs, if left unchallenged act as silent obstacles in our lives.

Here’s the good news – our core beliefs are not truths.  They may seem to be true in specific situations (or perhaps once when you were a child); however, they do not apply universally.  The key to shifting a core belief is 1. awareness and 2. choice!

Awareness

Core beliefs are often evident in your inner dialogue.  You can identfy them when you hear statements like these in your head: 

I am so _____.  I never _____.  I always _______.   It’s just the way I am.  I can’t _______. 

Catch yourself creating and reinforcing core beliefs about yourself and stop! Recognise a negative core belief for what it is – not the truth.

Choice

Once you are aware that a negative core belief is limiting you, choose to believe something else. 

Ask yourself, when is this not the case?  What could I be instead of ____?  Who could I be instead?  What else am I capable of?

This process of shifting core beliefs to new ones takes practice.  Over time, keep replacing limited negative core beliefs and explore your endless potential.  

Interested in coaching with me? I would love to hear from you!

Start with a Vision

Start with a Vision

Want to transform your life, and don’t know where to start?  

Don’t worry, that’s normal.  Just Breathe.

Creating shifts in a few areas of your life can be overwhelming.  What comes first?  Where do I start? How do I start?

When working with clients in transformational life coaching, we always start with a vision.  Making changes now without knowing where you want to end up can be ineffective and inefficient.  While taking the time to create a vision for your ideal life can give you clarity, inspiration, and direction.

Visioning is the most powerful capability humans have…[And]  a clear vision, backed by definite plans, gives you a tremendous feeling of confidence and personal power.

Brian Tracy

Self Development Author, Brian Tracy International

The business dictionary defines visioning as:

Mental process in which images of the desired future (goals, objectives, outcomes) are made intensely real and compelling to act as motivators for the present action. 

How does visioning work?

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stimulates your subconscious mind

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provides clarity in your mind of your life direction

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focuses your energy to the most important aspects of your life

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creates motivation to progress towards your vision

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attracts new possibilities to you through the law of attraction

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provokes an emotional response in your brain similar to actually achieving your vision

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helps with short term and long term decision making

Think of your vision as your future holiday destination.  Before you draw a map to get there, you need to know where you are going!

Want more information on creating a vision, and an exercise to show you how?

Are You a Risk Taker?

Are You a Risk Taker?


When was the last time you took a risk?

Did your palms get sweaty?  Did your heart race?


 

According to Doug Sundheim, and many other experts on the subject, risk is what makes us feel most alive.  Doug asked 100’s of people who were nearing the end of their lives:

“When in your life, did you feel most alive?”

There were 3 that Doug observed in his conversations:

1. Nearly every single person described a time when they’ve taken risks and pushed themselves outside of their comfort zone.
2. It was actually the process of taking the risks that individuals remember most fondly, not the actual outcome.
3. The story teller had the biggest smile on their face at the end of the story.

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Let’s first look at one definition of a risk – a situation involving exposure to danger.

 

Since we all define danger differently, risk taking is unique to every person.  I like to think of risk taking, as doing something outside of our comfort zone.  To know what is risky for you, you need to know what is inside your comfort zone.  It could be that skydiving is absolutely terrifyingly risky! Or perhaps you are a skydiving expert, and jumping out of a plane is a normal daily activity.  Perhaps for the skydiving expert, speaking in front of 10 people is terrifying.  Or perhaps it is being alone that makes your palms sweaty.

 


 

So why push the boundaries of your comfort zone?

Why Take Risks?

The Benefits of Getting Uncomfortable

To understand the benefits of taking risks, we need to understand that our comfort zones are created by our minds with the intention of survival.

A comfort zone is a mental and emotional state that causes a person to create and operate within certain boundaries; such boundaries create a sense of personal security within the individual…. A person who has established a comfort zone in a particular axis of his or her life, will tend to stay within that zone without, so often, making any attempt to step outside of it.  In order to step outside his or her comfort zone, a person must experiment with new and different behaviors, personalities and environments, and then experience the new and different responses that result from those new experiences. (Wikipedia)

We create our own comfort zones and naturally behave within those limitations, therefore to reshape or grow our comfort zone, we need to take risks.  The physical benefit of taking risks is the release of dopamine, a feel-good neurotransmitter which is part of the brain’s reward system.

Here are some of the other benefits with risk taking:

  •  Developing a sense of exploration and adventure.
  • Observing the world with a fresh perspective rather than out of habit.
  • Developing perserverence and dedication in mastering new skills or behaviours.
  • Learning from our failures and our successes.
  • Growing what is possible for ourselves and for others.

How You Can Start Taking Risks

 

Comfort zone

 1. Get to know your comfort zone.

Observe yourself.  Draw a circle and write down everything in the circle that is in your comfort zone.  Use these questions to help.

  • Where are you comfortable?  With who? In what location?  At what times of the day?
  • What activities are easy for you?  What habits do you have?  What actions do you repeat often?
  • How do you know when you are in your comfort zone?  (physically, mentally, emotionally?)
  • How much of your day do you spend in your comfort zone?

2. Get to know your magic zone.

Draw a second circle outside of your comfort zone circle.  This is your magic circle.  Write down all the things you want to have, do or be in your magic zone.

  • Consider that in order to move your magic zone aspirations into your comfort zone, you will need to take new and different actions.
  • What are the new and different actions you need to take?  What do you need to stop doing?  What do you need to start doing?

3. Commit to act.

Taking action is the only way to grow your comfort zone.  Tools can help to understand what you need to do and why.  Then it is up to you to take the first steps.

Are you ready to start shifting your comfort zone to incorporate all the things you really want?  What are your first steps?

Just think, in a year from now you comfort zone could grow to include your magic zone.  Then you get to create a new magic zone!

Values

Values

“Integrity is the foundation upon which all other values are built” – Brian Tracy

At leadership conference, we were given 50 values to pick our top 10 from.  If that wasn’t hard enough, we then had to narrow it down to our top 5!

My top 5 values, in order are:

1. love 2. adventure 3. integrity 4. nature 5. fun

Then we looked for discrepancies between our top values and how we are choosing to live our lives.  I had discrepancies with a few of my values.

Love – Love includes my friends and family, so is definitely my #1 value.  I am choosing to express my love for my friends and family more often and share more of myself with them.

Adventure –  Adventure is excitement, challenge and makes me feel alive.  I am choosing more adventure in my life; more surf trips, more travel and more experiences that I have never had before.

Integrity – As Brian says, integrity is foundational in creating a life I love.  Without integrity, my declarations don’t have power.  I continuously become aware of ways to build integrity and power – honouring my word and every commitment I make, and cleaning up any messes I create.

Nature – Whether its sitting on the grass, walking in the sand, or playing in the ocean – nature is my therapy.  It relaxes, rejuvenates and energises me.  I am buying more plants for my current home, and looking into building on a large, treed block in southwest WA.

Fun – I’m happy to share that fun is a daily occurrence.  I love to laugh and connect with others!

Its so good to revisit my values and I’m committed to using them to guide my decision making.

Being

Being

I’ve recently started reading Practicing the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle,  which is a practical application for the ideas in the Power of Now and A New Earth.   While I’ve read both these books previously, the amount of information and intensity of the ideas made it difficult to put into action in my life.  This time, I’m reading a condensed version of the material, and will  discuss each idea as I read it and reflect on how it can be implemented in my life.

Eckhart Tolle describes Being, as who we are at our core and our connection to everything.  This connection is immeasurable and indestructible.  Being encompasses beyond ourselves and deep within.  Our being can only be felt or known when the mind is still, free of thought and present.

Have you felt your being before?

If you sit very still and clear your mind.  I feel my being as an energy, which is deep within my chest and vibrates through me.

I have also felt my being through my connection with nature.   When I am surrounded by trees or ocean, I know that I am connected to them  and whatever I do to them, I do to myself.  For example, I have a difficult time killing insects, no matter how small and insignificant they seem.  In fact, when I am present, I can’t do it.  I usually place them on a piece of paper or in a  cup and put them outside.  Or I ignore them and let them hang out in the house.

Some people experience their being through meditation and or yoga, which is based on clearing the mind for increasingly long periods of time.  The more you practice creating space of nothingness in your mind, the easier it becomes and the more access you have to knowing your being.  This is also the key to being able to stay present.

In yoga, by focusing on your breathe you can become very present and experience your being and feel the connection to those around you.